You Love Jesus. You Love Your Husband.
But Sex? That’s… Complicated.
If desire feels distant, your confidence is in hiding, or shame’s been stealing your spark – this book is your fresh start. Rediscover your God-given sexual confidence in the body you have right now.
So Why Aren't More Christian Women Experiencing Great Sex?
Because we grew up in a mix of silence, shame, and Sunday school rules that told us what not to do but never how to enjoy what God created. Add in confusing body messages, trauma, exhaustion, kids, hormones, and the pressure to “just be in the mood” and it’s no wonder so many women feel disconnected from their desire.
We’re here to change that.
Ready to Experience Sex Like God Intended?
Written by Certified Sex Therapist Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST, NICC, together with the lovely and wildly honest Cassie Spurlock, Feeling Sexy brings real-life experience, biblical wisdom, and clinical insight into one powerful, healing journey.
This book helps you understand why sex might feel hard right now and shows you how to reclaim the pleasure, passion, and connection God designed you for.
Josh and Cassie guide you on a journey to:
- Heal the wounds, gaps, and false beliefs holding you back
- Reconnect with your body as good, beautiful, and holy
- Understand your nervous system and what turns desire on (or off)
- Cultivate true sexual confidence
- Invite Jesus into the places you’ve felt ashamed, stuck, or alone
What’s Inside Feeling Sexy
What’s Inside
Feeling Sexy
Inside these pages, you’ll discover:
Understand what's "normal" (and what's not)
- Why you’re not broken if desire doesn’t just “appear”
- How female arousal really works (hint: you’re not a microwave)
- The science behind accelerators, brakes, and what turns you on
Give (and enjoy) holy hand jobs & BJs
- How to give your husband pleasure confidently without feeling fake or lost
- Communication tips for asking what he likes (and telling him what you like)
- Why this kind of giving can be sacred, powerful, and even fun
Work with your brain, not against it
- How stress, shame, and past trauma affect your sex drive
- What your nervous system has to do with your orgasm
- Simple practices to help your body feel safe, open, and ready
Heal from shame, guilt and church girl baggage
- How to stop performing and start receiving
- What to do when past sexual sin or trauma still haunts you
- Why true holiness includes pleasure and how to stop feeling guilty about it
explore fantasy, seduction, and playfulness
- What’s okay to fantasize about and how to invite your husband in
- How to initiate sex in a way that feels fun (not forced)
- The biblical case for lingerie, role-play, and other creative expression
Talk masturbation, toys & "hands-on" with God
- What the Bible (and neuroscience) actually says about female masturbation
- How to explore your body without shame
- What to do if orgasm feels impossible, painful, or unreachable
Address pain and discomfort (yes, that too)
- What to do if sex hurts physically or emotionally
- When to get help (and where to find it)
- Why pain is never “just part of it” and how healing is possible
Talk about sex without awkward silence
- Scripts and prompts for bringing up tough topics
- How to communicate your needs, boundaries, and desires
- Ways to invite your spouse into deeper connection and confidence
Rediscover the sexy, sacred woman God designed
- Why feeling sexy is spiritual, not shallow
- How to rewire your brain for joy, pleasure, and holy intimacy
- What it means to bring Jesus into your sexuality in the most real way possible
What Readers Are Saying About Feeling Sexy
About the Authors
Meet Josh & Cassie Spurlock
Josh is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist, and the founder of MyCounselor® Online. He’s clocked over 10,000 clinical hours helping couples heal, reconnect, and experience the kind of intimacy God intended. Cassie is a wife, mom, and ministry-hearted woman who’s not afraid to talk about vibrators, Jesus, or what it really feels like to be a Christian woman navigating sex and desire. She brings the honest, heartfelt, and hilarious voice that makes this book feel like a girls’ night with wisdom and holy fire.
Together, they combine biblical truth, brain science, and a deep love for the Church to help women heal, grow, and become their true selves.
Get the First Half of the Book Free.
Want to see what Feeling Sexy is all about? We’ll send you the first half of the book so you can start reading today.
